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How can mediation assistance grandparents?

One of the unfortunate, and often unintended, problems when a relationship breaks down, is the suffering that children experience when they lose contact with grandparents, and that grandparents can go through when they find they are no longer part of their grandchildren’s lives. Grandparents can offer a special relationship to kids. They have more time and persistence, and a different, more accepting viewpoint.

One million grandparents have no contact with grandchildren

The reality is that there are around one million grandparents in the UK who say they no longer have contact with their grandchildren– generally because of the divorce or separation of their own children or some other household argument.

This is particularly disheartening as we all know that parents often rely greatly on assistance from their own moms and dads to look after their grandchildren. Some grandparents are far more hands on however, looking after the kids for the whole day, every day, whilst parents work.

According to Gransnet, the number of grandparents caring for their grandchildren is rising dramatically, increasing by 49% given that 2009, however 99% of grandparent childminders remain overdue, conserving the country around ₤ 17 billion in childcare.

It is easy to understand why loss of contact with grandkids can be heartbreaking for them and for the grandparents, who really have no automated right to exposure to their grandchildren. It isn’t against the law for a parent to decline a grandparent contact with their grandchildren, and it may seem like there is nothing that grandparents can do to re-establish that contact, however there are a variety of methods forward.

Mediation experts can assist grandparents

A lot of grandparents will try to sort out problems themselves by approaching their kids to go over the issues, however if this does not work, where should they turn? Family feuds can currently be heated up, and blame is typically part of the argument. Litigation, and court, is often not the very best way forward and can actually fuel the fire. It is also expensive and can take a long time. Mediation presents an expert who has the ability to help everyone, look at things in a different way and focus on what the children require rather than their differences. It is less adversarial than the standard court path and can assist to facilitate much better discussions, introducing calm and control, resulting in contracts that individuals can work with.

Mediation is usually very successful and both parties can straighten out misunderstandings, get a better understanding of why the relationship broke down and of each other’s expectations moving forward.

In some cases, however, mediation does not work, and grandparents can then look at making an application to court for a child-arrangements order. Courts always have the kid’s benefits at heart therefore will require grandparents to reveal that they did have a meaningful relationship with the grandchild prior to contact was lost which re-establishing it will benefit the grandchild and will not have a harmful effect on the broader family. Grandparents will also require to reveal that mediation has actually been tried before applying to court, or that there was a specific reason that it wasn’t.

If you are a grandparent who has lost contact with your grandchildren, for whatever factor, call our mediation professionals now. We can discuss your own situation and advise whether we feel that mediation can help you and your family.

One of the unfortunate, and frequently unintentional, issues when a relationship breaks down, is the suffering that kids experience when they lose contact with grandparents, and that grandparents can go through when they find they are no longer part of their grandchildren’s lives. Often, however, mediation does not work, and grandparents can then look at making an application to court for a child-arrangements order. Courts always have the kid’s best interests at heart and so will need grandparents to show that they did have a significant relationship with the grandchild prior to contact was lost and that re-establishing it will benefit the grandchild and will not have a detrimental result on the wider family. Grandparents will likewise require to show that mediation has been tried prior to applying to court, or that there was a particular reason that it wasn’t.

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About Mediation in WikiPedia

Mediation is a structured, interactive process where an impartial third party assists disputing parties in resolving conflict through the use of specialized communication and negotiation techniques. All participants in mediation are encouraged to actively participate in the process. Mediation is a “party-centered” process in that it is focused primarily upon the needs, rights, and interests of the parties. The mediator uses a wide variety of techniques to guide the process in a constructive direction and to help the parties find their optimal solution. A mediator is facilitative in that she/he manages the interaction between parties and facilitates open communication. Mediation is also evaluative in that the mediator analyzes issues and relevant norms (“reality-testing”), while refraining from providing prescriptive advice to the parties (e.g., “You should do… .”).

Mediation, as used in law, is a form of alternative dispute resolution resolving disputes between two or more parties with concrete effects. Typically, a third party, the mediator, assists the parties to negotiate a settlement. Disputants may mediate disputes in a variety of domains, such as commercial, legal, diplomatic, workplace, community, and family matters.

The term “mediation” broadly refers to any instance in which a third party helps others reach an agreement. More specifically, mediation has a structure, timetable, and dynamics that “ordinary” negotiation lacks. The process is private and confidential, possibly enforced by law. Participation is typically voluntary. The mediator acts as a neutral third party and facilitates rather than directs the process. Mediation is becoming a more peaceful and internationally accepted solution to end the conflict. Mediation can be used to resolve disputes of any magnitude.

The term “mediation,” however, due to language as well as national legal standards and regulations is not identical in content in all countries but rather has specific connotations, and there are some differences between Anglo-Saxon definitions and other countries, especially countries with a civil, statutory law tradition.

Mediators use various techniques to open, or improve, dialogue and empathy between disputants, aiming to help the parties reach an agreement. Much depends on the mediator’s skill and training. As the practice gained popularity, training programs, certifications, and licensing followed, which produced trained and professional mediators committed to the discipline.

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