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86% of mediation clients inform us it has helped improve their family scenario

 

We support moms and dads, children, young people and the wider household through family modification and disruption, especially where this has occurred as a result of separation, divorce, civil partnership dissolution or family restructuring. Mediation services lie in all parts of UK.

The aim of mediation is to enhance communication, decrease dispute and to agree on useful, practical arrangements for the future, considering children’s requirements, feelings and views. Our focus is on putting kids’s requirements first and making separation less difficult for everyone.

Although mediation is mainly for couples whose relationship is over, it’s for all sorts of households– single or married, separated, separated or never having cohabited, younger or older– and for anybody in your household. Moms and dads, grandparents, step-parents, other significant adults, kids and young people can all take part in household mediation.

Dispute is typical in families, and it can occur for a variety of different reasons. Often it assists to get some additional assistance to find a great way forward. We provide a range of other Family Assistance services.

Grandparents mediation

How can mediation aid grandparents?

One of the sad, and typically unintentional, concerns when a relationship breaks down, is the suffering that children experience when they lose contact with grandparents, and that grandparents can go through when they find they are no longer part of their grandchildren’s lives. Grandparents can offer an unique relationship to children. They have more time and patience, and a different, more accepting perspective.

One million grandparents have no contact with grandchildren

The truth is that there are around one million grandparents in the UK who state they no longer have contact with their grandchildren– generally because of the divorce or separation of their own children or some other household argument.

This is especially disheartening as we all understand that moms and dads frequently rely heavily on aid from their own moms and dads to care for their grandchildren. In fact, 97% of moms and dads get some sort of help, according to Grandparentsplus. This might simply be picking the kids up from school, giving them some food and keeping them inhabited for an hour or two up until their parents pick them up when they end up work. Some grandparents are much more hands on however, looking after the children for the whole day, every day, whilst parents work.

According to Gransnet, the variety of grandparents taking care of their grandchildren is rising sharply, increasing by 49% given that 2009, however 99% of grandparent childminders stay unpaid, conserving the nation around ₤ 17 billion in childcare.

It is easy to understand why loss of contact with grandkids can be heartbreaking for them and for the grandparents, who really have no automated right to contact with their grandchildren. It isn’t against the law for a parent to decline a grandparent contact with their grandchildren, and it may look like there is absolutely nothing that grandparents can do to re-establish that contact, however there are a number of methods forward.

Mediation professionals can help grandparents

Most grandparents will try to arrange out issues themselves by approaching their children to talk about the problems, but if this doesn’t work, where should they turn? Mediation presents a specialist who is able to help everyone, look at things in a different way and focus on what the kids require rather than their distinctions. It is less adversarial than the standard court route and can assist to facilitate much better discussions, presenting calm and control, leading to agreements that people can work with.

Mediation is typically very successful and both celebrations can settle misconceptions, get a much better understanding of why the relationship broke down and of each other’s expectations moving forward.

In some cases, nevertheless, mediation does not work, and grandparents can then take a look at making an application to court for a child-arrangements order. Courts always have the kid’s best interests at heart and so will require grandparents to reveal that they did have a meaningful relationship with the grandchild prior to contact was lost and that re-establishing it will benefit the grandchild and won’t have a damaging result on the broader family. Grandparents will likewise require to show that mediation has been tried prior to applying to court, or that there was a particular reason that it wasn’t.

If you are a grandparent who has lost contact with your grandchildren, for whatever factor, contact our mediation specialists now. We can discuss your own situation and encourage whether we feel that mediation can help you and your family.

One of the sad, and typically unintended, issues when a relationship breaks down, is the suffering that children experience when they lose contact with grandparents, and that grandparents can go through when they find they are no longer part of their grandchildren’s lives. Sometimes, nevertheless, mediation does not work, and grandparents can then look at making an application to court for a child-arrangements order. Courts always have the kid’s best interests at heart and so will require grandparents to reveal that they did have a significant relationship with the grandchild prior to contact was lost and that re-establishing it will benefit the grandchild and will not have a damaging effect on the broader family. Grandparents will also need to reveal that mediation has actually been tried before using to court, or that there was a specific factor that it wasn’t.

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About Mediation in WikiPedia

Mediation is a structured, interactive process where an impartial third party assists disputing parties in resolving conflict through the use of specialized communication and negotiation techniques. All participants in mediation are encouraged to actively participate in the process. Mediation is a “party-centered” process in that it is focused primarily upon the needs, rights, and interests of the parties. The mediator uses a wide variety of techniques to guide the process in a constructive direction and to help the parties find their optimal solution. A mediator is facilitative in that she/he manages the interaction between parties and facilitates open communication. Mediation is also evaluative in that the mediator analyzes issues and relevant norms (“reality-testing”), while refraining from providing prescriptive advice to the parties (e.g., “You should do… .”).

Mediation, as used in law, is a form of alternative dispute resolution resolving disputes between two or more parties with concrete effects. Typically, a third party, the mediator, assists the parties to negotiate a settlement. Disputants may mediate disputes in a variety of domains, such as commercial, legal, diplomatic, workplace, community, and family matters.

The term “mediation” broadly refers to any instance in which a third party helps others reach an agreement. More specifically, mediation has a structure, timetable, and dynamics that “ordinary” negotiation lacks. The process is private and confidential, possibly enforced by law. Participation is typically voluntary. The mediator acts as a neutral third party and facilitates rather than directs the process. Mediation is becoming a more peaceful and internationally accepted solution to end the conflict. Mediation can be used to resolve disputes of any magnitude.

The term “mediation,” however, due to language as well as national legal standards and regulations is not identical in content in all countries but rather has specific connotations, and there are some differences between Anglo-Saxon definitions and other countries, especially countries with a civil, statutory law tradition.

Mediators use various techniques to open, or improve, dialogue and empathy between disputants, aiming to help the parties reach an agreement. Much depends on the mediator’s skill and training. As the practice gained popularity, training programs, certifications, and licensing followed, which produced trained and professional mediators committed to the discipline.

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