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If you are having problems with separation or divorce which is affecting you and your children we can assist. It’s finest not to attempt to go this alone, our trained and skilled mediators can help you through this procedure.

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How can mediation aid grandparents?

One of the unfortunate, and typically unintentional, issues when a relationship breaks down, is the suffering that children experience when they lose contact with grandparents, and that grandparents can go through when they find they are no longer part of their grandchildren’s lives. Grandparents can offer a special relationship to children. They have more time and patience, and a different, more accepting perspective.

One million grandparents have no contact with grandchildren

The truth is that there are around one million grandparents in the UK who state they no longer have contact with their grandchildren– typically because of the divorce or separation of their own kids or some other household argument.

This is especially discouraging as we all understand that parents often rely heavily on assistance from their own parents to care for their grandchildren. In fact, 97% of moms and dads get some sort of help, according to Grandparentsplus. This may simply be choosing the kids up from school, giving them some food and keeping them inhabited for an hour or two till their moms and dads select them up when they end up work. Some grandparents are much more hands on though, taking care of the children for the whole day, every day, whilst parents work.

According to Gransnet, the variety of grandparents taking care of their grandchildren is rising greatly, increasing by 49% because 2009, however 99% of grandparent childminders remain unpaid, conserving the nation around ₤ 17 billion in child care.

It is easy to understand why loss of contact with grandkids can be heartbreaking for them and for the grandparents, who in fact have no automatic right to exposure to their grandchildren. It isn’t against the law for a parent to refuse a grandparent contact with their grandchildren, and it might seem like there is absolutely nothing that grandparents can do to re-establish that contact, however there are a variety of ways forward.

Mediation experts can assist grandparents

Most grandparents will try to arrange out issues themselves by approaching their kids to talk about the issues, however if this doesn’t work, where should they turn? Mediation introduces a professional who is able to assist everyone, look at things differently and focus on what the children need rather than their differences. It is less adversarial than the traditional court path and can help to facilitate better discussions, introducing calm and control, leading to arrangements that people can work with.

Mediation is normally very successful and both celebrations can straighten out misunderstandings, get a better understanding of why the relationship broke down and of each other’s expectations moving forward.

In some cases, however, mediation does not work, and grandparents can then look at making an application to court for a child-arrangements order. Courts always have the child’s best interests at heart and so will need grandparents to reveal that they did have a meaningful relationship with the grandchild prior to contact was lost which re-establishing it will benefit the grandchild and won’t have a harmful effect on the wider household. Grandparents will also require to show that mediation has actually been attempted prior to applying to court, or that there was a specific reason that it wasn’t.

If you are a grandparent who has actually lost contact with your grandchildren, for whatever reason, call our mediation experts now. We can discuss your own circumstance and advise whether we feel that mediation can help you and your family.

One of the unfortunate, and frequently unintentional, concerns when a relationship breaks down, is the suffering that kids experience when they lose contact with grandparents, and that grandparents can go through when they find they are no longer part of their grandchildren’s lives. Sometimes, nevertheless, mediation does not work, and grandparents can then look at making an application to court for a child-arrangements order. Courts always have the kid’s finest interests at heart and so will require grandparents to show that they did have a meaningful relationship with the grandchild prior to contact was lost and that re-establishing it will benefit the grandchild and will not have a detrimental impact on the broader family. Grandparents will also require to show that mediation has been attempted prior to applying to court, or that there was a specific reason that it wasn’t.

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About Mediation in WikiPedia

Mediation is a structured, interactive process where an impartial third party assists disputing parties in resolving conflict through the use of specialized communication and negotiation techniques. All participants in mediation are encouraged to actively participate in the process. Mediation is a “party-centered” process in that it is focused primarily upon the needs, rights, and interests of the parties. The mediator uses a wide variety of techniques to guide the process in a constructive direction and to help the parties find their optimal solution. A mediator is facilitative in that she/he manages the interaction between parties and facilitates open communication. Mediation is also evaluative in that the mediator analyzes issues and relevant norms (“reality-testing”), while refraining from providing prescriptive advice to the parties (e.g., “You should do… .”).

Mediation, as used in law, is a form of alternative dispute resolution resolving disputes between two or more parties with concrete effects. Typically, a third party, the mediator, assists the parties to negotiate a settlement. Disputants may mediate disputes in a variety of domains, such as commercial, legal, diplomatic, workplace, community, and family matters.

The term “mediation” broadly refers to any instance in which a third party helps others reach an agreement. More specifically, mediation has a structure, timetable, and dynamics that “ordinary” negotiation lacks. The process is private and confidential, possibly enforced by law. Participation is typically voluntary. The mediator acts as a neutral third party and facilitates rather than directs the process. Mediation is becoming a more peaceful and internationally accepted solution to end the conflict. Mediation can be used to resolve disputes of any magnitude.

The term “mediation,” however, due to language as well as national legal standards and regulations is not identical in content in all countries but rather has specific connotations, and there are some differences between Anglo-Saxon definitions and other countries, especially countries with a civil, statutory law tradition.

Mediators use various techniques to open, or improve, dialogue and empathy between disputants, aiming to help the parties reach an agreement. Much depends on the mediator’s skill and training. As the practice gained popularity, training programs, certifications, and licensing followed, which produced trained and professional mediators committed to the discipline.

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