Our Household Mediation Providers

CountryWide Mediation was among the first household mediation services
to be established in the country and it is now one of the foremost service providers of household mediation in the Gillingham.

We have an unrivalled depth of knowledge, skill and experience in solving problems and resolving dispute and disputes within households.

All members of our family mediation group are professionally accredited (FMCA) through the Family Mediation Council.

We have our own devoted mediation facilities in a peaceful yet central area, with 3 mediation spaces, separate waiting locations, a reception area with additional seating and a back office.

We are able to use first conference/ MIAMs consultations (for people) within 24hours and consultations for mediation conferences (for both celebrations), within 5 working days.

We supply both lawfully assisted and independently funded mediation covering all Gillingham.

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Help when you can’t agree

Whether you have just recently separated or your scenarios have actually altered, you may require some aid to come to an agreement with your kid’s other parent about arrangements for your children, financial matters or home.

This page discusses the various options offered to assist you negotiate and communicate more effectively and solve any disagreements. If there are reasons that it is not ideal to negotiate with your child’s other parent, for example if they are a threat to you or your child or you have suffered domestic violence, you must get legal advice.

First steps

If you haven’t currently, take a look at our factsheet Making plans for your children. It supplies some fundamental actions to help you have more efficient conversations about your children.

Caring for yourself

If you have been through a difficult split or a demanding or emotionally tough time, taking actions to look after yourself and using the assistance that’s available will assist you make better choices.

It will likewise make it much easier for you to stay available to your children and their psychological requirements, and ensure they are supported.

The Gingerbread factsheet Taking care of your emotional health will offer you advice on how to get in better shape to make those essential decisions.

Do you require legal suggestions?

If you’re separating or have actually just recently separated you will need to consider your finances, your home and any home you own or financial obligations you have. You ought to learn your legal rights before you work out.

To find family law solicitors who take a non-confrontational method contact Resolution, who can put you in touch with a regional solicitor. Civil
Legal Suggestions can also refer you to a regional lawyer and examine your privilege to legal aid (see listed below). For more information on what legal recommendations
is readily available see the Gingerbread factsheet
Getting Legal Help.

Assisting you talk

In some cases it’s tough to know where to begin or how to make things much better. A variety of organisations can help, whether in person, over the phone, by means of email or online. This type of support will help you to understand:

  • How you are feeling
  • Why communication can be so challenging
  • Why it deserves trying to improve the way you communicate
  • What positive steps you can take to alter the situation and make it easier for you both to talk to each other.

Some programmes are created to help you acquire skills that will help you work out in a calm and positive way. A few of the services on offer are totally free while others will charge. Learn as much as possible about each kind of service so you can pick the one that finest matches you and your situation.


Mediation can assist fix disagreements on practical problems, with the guidance of a trained professional. It’s a voluntary procedure, neither moms and dad can be forced to try mediation if they do not wish to. It is not counselling or assistance– the focus is on making a contract that works instead of talking about emotions.

Conciliators can’t provide you legal suggestions, and it’s recommended to get legal recommendations before you utilize mediation, particularly if you need to decide monetary problems. Many people going through mediation find it handy to have legal guidance to support them. You can organize this at any time. The mediator can offer you details about local household solicitors and how to choose one. If you get legal help for mediation, you might also secure free legal advice
during mediation.

Mediation can typically be cheaper and quicker than working out through a lawyer or litigating. Working out an arrangement through mediation may likewise help in reducing hostility, and allow you to focus on your relationship as parents. It’s important to take into consideration what your child needs and desires if you’re making arrangements for your kid. An arbitrator will concentrate on making a child-centred contract, which ought to remain in the child’s best interest.

What occurs in mediation?

You and your kid’s other moms and dad will discuss the concerns you need to work out, and the mediator will lead the conversation and help you focus. The mediator will assist you and your kid’s other parent have your say, and it is the two of you who make the decisions. You might be worried that your child’s other moms and dad will dominate or take over, however the mediator will work to ensure you are both heard.

Who is mediation appropriate for?

Mediation depends on 2 people wishing to fix their conflict, although they have extremely different viewpoints at the start of the procedure.

Mediation is not suitable in specific circumstances. If you have actually remained in a violent or violent relationship with your child’s other parent, mediation may not be appropriate for you.

Mediation may not be possible due to practical concerns, such as not having the ability to participate in because of where you live, or because of an impairment.

Is it lawfully binding?

If you have the ability to reach an arrangement with your kid’s other parent, the arbitrator will prepare a composed file for you. You might wish to get legal recommendations on whether it is fair to you, specifically if it has to do with finances.

The agreement supplied by the conciliator is not legally binding, however if you would like it to be, a court can make a contract about finances into a ‘permission order’. This indicates you have a court order, but you have chosen it instead of a judge. The court will require to inspect the arrangement is fair before they approve the order. The existing cost for a permission order is ₤ 50, however if you’re on a low earnings it may be reduced– you can ask at the court for more information on expenses prior to you pay.

How much does it cost?

Mediation expenses will vary depending upon the service you utilize. Depending on your income, you might be eligible for legal help financing, which implies it would be free. For an evaluation to see if you get approved for legal help contact Civil Legal Advice.

The charges are most likely to be per session, so find out the expenses from the mediation service before you begin. Some services can charge you separately, however if this isn’t possible ensure you agree between you how the costs will be paid prior to you begin.

The amount of sessions you need will depend upon the concerns you need to deal with, however in between three and five is the average.

How to discover a mediator

You can search for a household conciliator at www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/find-local-mediator. The search must offer you details of regional services that do legal aid work, can give you general information about mediation, and details of a regional non-profit making mediation service.

Utilizing a lawyer to negotiate

You could ask a lawyer to work out for you if working out with your kid’s other moms and dad directly and utilizing an arbitrator is not ideal or has failed.

There are likely to be costs included, as you can’t get legal help for family matters unless you have suffered domestic violence, or extremely hardly ever– your case is “exceptional”.

As soon as you have discussed with the lawyer what your choices are and what decision a court may make in your situations, you will need to give them clear guidelines on how you want to continue.

Collaborative law

Collaborative law includes agreeing that you will not go to court, and you will fix the conflict between you and your solicitors. It typically indicates meeting with your child’s other moms and dad and their solicitor face-to-face and attempting to reach a contract around the table.

You would both have your lawyer with you to make sure that a reasonable contract is reached and they will offer recommendations during the meeting. To find a collective law solicitor contact Resolution.

If you still can’t agree


Arbitration is an alternative to going to court. It is an official, personal and binding procedure for solving family disagreements, and can only be used for monetary matters; it can’t be utilized to deal with disputes about plans for children. And you can select your arbitrator if you reach a contract through arbitration there will not be any public court records.

Arbitration is similar to the court procedure. An experienced expert will decide for you, in the same way a judge would. It can be quicker and cheaper than litigating. To learn more, contact the Institute of Household Law Arbitrators.

Asking the court to choose

Applying to the court should be the last hope, when all other attempts to agree have failed or aren’t ideal. Court action can be prolonged and expensive, and parents may not get the outcome they desire.

Before you can request a court order, most people will need to think about mediation, and reveal a type at the court to prove that you have been to a meeting to go over the viability of mediation. This is called a Mediation Details Evaluation Satisfying. There are exemptions to going to a meeting, for instance if you have suffered domestic violence.

For more details contact National Household Mediation or visit the Family Mediation Council website.

The court will encourage you to reach an agreement, however if you can’t it may be necessary for the court to issue an order.

Orders for kids

The following are the most typical orders a court can issue in relation to disagreements over children:

  • Parental duty order– an order giving a parent or carer the legal rights
  • and duties of a moms and dad– to learn more see the Gingerbread factsheet Parental duty.
  • Kid arrangements order– sets out when a kid sees and stays with a specific individual, typically a parent. These orders have actually replaced contact and house orders
  • Particular concern order– to choose a specific point of conflict, such as where a child will go to school, or which faith they ought to follow
  • Forbidden steps order– stops an individual doing something with or to a child, for instance to stop a moms and dad taking a child abroad, or from picking a kid up from school.

How does a court make a decision about our kids?

When deciding whether to make an order, the court needs to think about whether it would be much better for the well-being of the child to make an order than not make an order. The court will not make an order unless it’s needed. The well-being of the child should be the court’s leading priority when making decisions. This is known as ‘the welfare concept’.

There are particular things that a court thinks about when choosing what’s in a child’s benefits. This is called the ‘well-being list’. The court thinks about all the scenarios of the case and not simply the checklist, however it’s the starting point.

The list is:

  • The dreams and feelings of the child (because of their age and understanding).
  • The kid’s physical, psychological and educational needs.
  • The most likely effect on the kid of any modifications in circumstances.
  • The kid’s age, sex, background and any characteristics which the court considers pertinent.
  • Any harm the child has actually suffered or is at danger of suffering.
  • How capable each of the parents (or other appropriate individual) is of meeting the kid’s requirements.
  • The range of powers offered to the court.

If you’re thinking about getting a court order, or your child’s other moms and dad has gotten a court order, you need to think of getting legal suggestions. Seeing a lawyer can be expensive if you can’t get help with the expenses through legal aid.

If it’s not possible for you to see a lawyer, think about getting some help from an organisation that can offer you some suggestions free of charge, such as Rights of Females or People Advice.

For more information see the Gingerbread factsheet Getting Legal Help.

If you’re making arrangements for your child, it’s crucial to take into factor to consider what your child wants and requires. The conciliator will assist you and your child’s other parent have your say, and it is the 2 of you who make the decisions. When deciding whether to make an order, the court must think about whether it would be better for the well-being of the kid to make an order than not make an order. The welfare of the kid should be the court’s leading priority when making choices. There are certain things that a court thinks about when choosing what’s in a child’s finest interests.

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Mediation is a structured, interactive process where an impartial third party assists disputing parties in resolving conflict through the use of specialized communication and negotiation techniques. All participants in mediation are encouraged to actively participate in the process. Mediation is a “party-centered” process in that it is focused primarily upon the needs, rights, and interests of the parties. The mediator uses a wide variety of techniques to guide the process in a constructive direction and to help the parties find their optimal solution. A mediator is facilitative in that she/he manages the interaction between parties and facilitates open communication. Mediation is also evaluative in that the mediator analyzes issues and relevant norms (“reality-testing”), while refraining from providing prescriptive advice to the parties (e.g., “You should do…”).

Mediation, as used in law, is a form of alternative dispute resolution resolving disputes between two or more parties with concrete effects. Typically, a third party, the mediator, assists the parties to negotiate a settlement. Disputants may mediate disputes in a variety of domains, such as commercial, legal, diplomatic, workplace, community, and family matters.

The term mediation broadly refers to any instance in which a third party helps others reach an agreement. More specifically, mediation has a structure, timetable, and dynamics that “ordinary” negotiation lacks. The process is private and confidential, possibly enforced by law. Participation is typically voluntary. The mediator acts as a neutral third party and facilitates rather than directs the process. Mediation is becoming a more peaceful and internationally accepted solution to end the conflict. Mediation can be used to resolve disputes of any magnitude.

The term mediation, however, due to language as well as national legal standards and regulations is not identical in content in all countries but rather has specific connotations, and there are some differences between Anglo-Saxon definitions and other countries, especially countries with a civil, statutory law tradition.

Mediators use various techniques to open, or improve, dialogue and empathy between disputants, aiming to help the parties reach an agreement. Much depends on the mediator’s skill and training. As the practice gained popularity, training programs, certifications, and licensing followed, which produced trained and professional mediators committed to the discipline.

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